From “Relationships and Karma”

I’m going to speak today about karma and relationships. The first thing to say is that as an individual, you have relationship karma that exists separately from your karmic relationships. You have relationship karma that is yours, that has nothing to do with an agreement with another person or an arrangement or a shared experience. Your relationship karma can be viewed in the patterns of how you relate to people, in viewing what it is you are trying to achieve through your various relationships. What are you trying to get? What are you trying to get done?

Your relationship karma is what you carry with you. Karma is defined here as beliefs: deep-seated beliefs about what people are for, why you should want to be in relationship with them, what you think you are supposed to be getting from relating with them – all of this. Every relationship in your life exists to teach you about you. They exist to enhance your experience of being you. Whether they are experienced as positive or negative, they show you who you are.

These people are showing up. They appear in front of you to reflect energy that you yourself are carrying. In one sense all the people in your life are imaginary. In one sense you are the only real person, because you are the center of your education. People come into your life and they leave when they do to support your learning. When you need to learn something, somebody appears. When you have learned it, that person disappears – one way or another.

Because your relationships reflect your energy field, because they are a manifestation of what you are learning as a human, everything that occurs in your relationships is your creation. You have created all of these dynamics. You have created each of these patterns in order to learn what it means to have healthy relationships.

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Certain relationships naturally occur earlier in life than later in life. With this example of what I will call karma mates that you might want to call soul mates, that others have called soul mates – with this example, there are those that are suited to fit with your journey of enfoldment to occur when you are children, others in midlife, and others later in life. This timing has everything to do with the agreements that have been made at the soul level regarding each person’s respective journey of enfoldment. There are some people to whom you are connected in this way who appear at a number of different points in your life. The agreement simply, from the soul’s perspective, covers that much ground. It is that much deeper of a love and support than if it were to happen once. “Oh, I can do these three things for you. Oh, and you can do these four things for me,” meaning: “revealing to me these four features of my makeup that I might not be sure how to do or be or inhabit or embody or own by myself.” So some of your karma mate relationships will persist or pop up again at different times in your life. It is very important that you learn to let people go, even or perhaps especially these people to whom you feel more deeply connected than to others. Do not tie the generosity that they have offered to an expectation that they will continue to give to you in the future. Be grateful to them for the part that they have played, whether it is difficult for you to have experienced or joyful. Thank them for that part they played and release them into their own futures. They have other agreement to fulfill, as do you.

There is a meme in the human collective consciousness on some parts of the planet and it is a romantic, romanticized ideal of love. Many of you have a hope, a wish, a dream, that there is someone out there for you. This is one of the reasons I do not use the words “soul mate”, because in some human circles, this term has become misunderstood and therefore misused. There is not one person or one soul out there for you. This is a misunderstanding of how the journey works. Now many of you are dealing with memories of losing someone you perceived was “the one” for you. In your lives in other portions of the timeline playing itself out in the earth space-time dimension, you have a mate. You meet that mate when you are relatively young and you spend your life with that mate. Given how the energy tapestry is shifting on earth now, this backdrop to how all humans are experiencing themselves, ideally to step into and inhabit and embody themselves in more deep ways as multi-dimensional beings, many of you who have this single mate experience in other lives cannot have that now.

Some of you may hope there is a single person for you because you are influenced by that misunderstanding which is a meme in the collective consciousness on some parts of the earth. Others of you are looking to be reunited with one of your former mates. For some of you this will happen. For many of you, this will not. If you have chosen to process your history and to become a being living in the present tense, you will meet these people from your past and not be able to be with them in the same way that you are in your soul’s other lives together in this dimension in different places in the timeline.

Therefore, for those of you who are choosing to shift to living in the present tense as multidimensional beings creating your reality, and therefore the world around you, there will be parts within each of you dealing with loss. Perhaps frustrated that relationships don’t work out in the way that you had hoped they would or that they don’t last, are not stable and secure and permanent. By choosing to be alive on earth now (currently it is your year 2010), you are making the statement that you are choosing to confront your relationship with history and with yourself as a being with history. You therefore have more conscious access to what is going on at other places on the earth time-space continuum in your other lives. Because you have more access to the experiences of these other versions of your soul, these other manifestations in the space-time dimension of your soul, you have access to more memories. You therefore will remember more mates, for example. You will now need to confront much more than any of these other versions of you in your earth space-time history as other versions of manifestations of your soul.